Why see a psychologist/therapist?
People often consider meeting with a psychologist/therapist at times of great transition in their lives. Sometimes these transitions are choiceless, provoked by sudden changes in physical health. At other times, the loss of intimate relationships or employment, birth or death can lead to profound questions of what the next chapter of life will look like. Transitions can also take the form of realizing one needs to make significant changes, for example, to the ways one responds to stress.
Is consulting a psychologist/therapist right for me?
We want to address some of the questions you may have to assist you in deciding the best solution for your needs. To begin, here are a few of the common concerns* people express during an initial meeting.
- "I can't seem to make sense of why I am reacting this way. I feel like I don't understand myself anymore."
- "I have a real problem with a member of my family; I've been trying my best to figure this out but I am feeling more and more stuck."
- "I am having trouble sleeping, eating, concentrating, and performing like I usually do."
- "I have undergone some recent reversals that have really shaken my confidence in life."
- "I can't seem to commit to a plan or a relationship, even though this is what I really want."
- "I am having more dark thoughts, sometimes to the point where I think it might be easier if I were dead."
- "I can't put this off anymore; I need to find a way to stop avoiding and start dealing."
- "I am looking to have some meaningful conversations about my sexuality, my sexual orientation, and/or my gender identity."
- "My anxiety has always been present; sometimes to the point of panic. I am ready for a change."
- "The future has never seemed more uncertain."
- "There was a time in our relationship that we were happy; but lately we can't seem to break this destructive pattern of hurt. We are so tired of this. We don't know whether to break up or stay together."
- "I can't seem to reconcile my spiritual/religious beliefs with recent life events."
- "My world has been flipped upside down with [a recent loss; a cancer diagnosis; my divorce]. I can't seem to cope with my thoughts and feelings.
*These are not actual statements, but are re-written to preserve confidentiality while retaining the essence of the dilemma.
What you can expect if you meet with us:
- You can expect that we will ask why you are seeking help at this time.
- You can expect that we may ask a number of questions in order to assess your situation.
- You can expect that we will discuss what your goals are in therapy.
- You can expect that we will discuss if we are a good fit for what you are looking for.
- You can expect that we will not compel you to disclose anything you do not wish to share.
- You can expect that if we deem the issues you present beyond our area of professional competence, we will refer you to a qualified colleague.
- You can expect that our conversation will be kept confidential, adhering to the ethical code of conduct of the Order of Psychologists of Quebec